I know that the whole social media is abuzz with the death of Chadwick Boseman who died a few days back. I’m sure that some of us who didn’t know him have read up on him. I heard a story later that he started losing weight and looked tired towards the end of his life and people were insulting him for it.
I have said it over and over again that we need to be kind and sensitive to others. I read a Twitter post, the person said that after all the “be kind” that people are throwing here and there, he hoped that people will not go back to insulting, body shaming or judging people again.
I have realized that we live in a hypocritical world. A world where everyone goes with the flow, a world where people are becoming insensitive to others needs. A world where if it doesn’t concern us we do not care. A world where we will choose to be quiet even when injustice is served. A world where people will opt to join others to criticize others without checking their own lives.
Bitterness is real, it doesn’t tell you when it creeps into your heart, bitterness is like greed, it gets worse until it is uncontrollable. Do not for any reason decide to go with any flow or trend that judge or speak ill of others.
A number of us have allowed the media people to set standards for us. They tell you what is acceptable or unacceptable. They tell you too much fat on a lady is bad, they tell you a man is supposed to be this and that. This is not supposed to be. Don’t ever adopt the phrase of if you can’t beat them, join them. It backfires in the end.
One thing I’ve realized is that we are humans, we have flaws, we have weaknesses, none of us can escape that, we need to understand that even the people we hold in high regard will disappoint us sometimes, it’s not because some of them want to, it’s because they are humans and humans make mistakes.
We have all made mistakes in life, some are more grave than the others but we have people who have given us chances to redeem ourselves. Imagine if God punishes or condemn us with how hard or how much we sin, what would be left of the world?
Do not take out your frustrations on others, do not body shame people, do not tell them how to live their lives, do not judge them or their body or their height. Don’t even joke with their situation at all. They might laugh about it when you are there but it doesn’t mean it’s okay. People are actually dying because of what people say, be careful of what you say to others.
Be kind and sensitive.
It might look stupid but little kind words here and there will not kill you. Learn to be kind to others. If you’ve not seen someone for a while, ask after them sincerely, pray for them, pray with them. Send them words of encouragement. A little kindness goes a long way, it can be the reason why someone will go through hardships and survive. Ask me about it, I would know. Be sensitive, it’s not everything you need to say, don’t just throw words out there without weight.
Learn to appreciate people
I’ve said it once before, learn to say thank you to people, compliment people even strangers, it could make someone’s day. Appreciate the good things about people, it might look small to you but it could be the reason why someone keeps going. Appreciate people that work for you and with you, appreciate people that support you, appreciate friends and family.
If you don’t follow the trend you won’t die. If the trend is wrong don’t join people to joke about it or do it. A joke about people is always funny until it happens to you.
Writer: Empress_Writes (Esther Ayoola)