Emotional Baggage is little negativity, insecurities and emotional problems that have followed a lot of people from their childhood, puberty or even adulthood… The thing about emotional Baggage is that it can be received at any time. We have all come across one of these in our lives at one point or the other… Most of this Baggage is as a result of experiences that we’ve had with people or family or friends over the years.
The thing is that baggage is always heavy, it takes your time, zaps your energy and leaves you negative. Nobody plans to have baggage, no one plans to have things that drag them down and limit them in every way. I know that a lot of people have had the feeling of not being good enough, insecurities in relationships with others, guilt, the heaviness of heart, inability to open up to others, inability to trust… All these and more can constitute emotional baggage.
So, the question is, where exactly does emotional baggage stem from? Well, they could be from abuse, violence, childhood experiences, bad relationships, toxic friends and family, bad society.
Why do chubby or fat people have issues? It’s because society makes them feel like they should be skinny… There was a time that curves were deemed as a burden to the human body, what about fat in places like the stomach, thighs and legs? The same goes for short people, people with small stature, dwarves, retarded people, even a woman who still has pregnancy fat! A lot of people have lost faith in themselves because of what people or society sees or says about them. Therefore, they have closed up themselves to the world, they have built a wall that has thick and wide as the great wall of China.
Endless issues have been caused by experiences and situations, some cannot even be fathomed. But one thing about this baggage is that they can be resolved. When you allow these issues to continue for a long time, they become limitations, a problem, they plant negativity and zaps your energy.
How do you heal emotional baggage?
Write it down
Sometimes you need to write down how you feel. A friend of mine once said she had an email and she would write herself a letter. I, on the other hand, had jotting pads where I write things I wouldn’t have been able to tell the world. Some people own a blog or a page and pour their heart out… The essence is to pour your heart out.
Let it go
This is one of the hardest parts. Because, most times, something tries to draw you back into that darkness, the baggage finds a way to get back your attention. So, you have to be firm on yourself, give yourself all the reasons why you need to let it go. It might take a while but it will work.
A lot of people need this so bad. There are people who still carry around guilt or pains of the past, accept the fact that you can’t change the past and move on. Find a way and be at peace with yourself.
Surround yourself with good people.
If you have been moving with toxic people or people who are unappreciative of you, then you need to reconsider. Find good friends and stick with them, make sure they are people who will make you feel good and support your healing process. The more you stay around them, the better you become.
Cry it out
I watched a movie recently and the guy was in coma, he saw his dead father who he couldn’t talk to before he died in an accident. After 15 years, he was able to say all he would have said. Before the guy woke up, I told my brother that he would cry, he looked at me funny. Funny enough, the guy woke up and cried for hours🤣🤣🤣… The point is that some people need to cry. It’s not something you can force them to, it has to be when they become at peace and accept whatever has happened and move on. It might look unconventional to someone but trust me I understand how that feels.
I have been in an angry place before, but I didn’t want to break down either but the day I did, it was liberating… It might not be every one that needs to but when you feel like, please don’t hold back, at that point peace comes.
You see, it has worked for me more times than I can count if you can’t pray, sing if you can’t sing, sit down with God and cry… You know the Holy Spirit is our comforter right? Trust me, you will feel better after that. Do not take God out of your pain or experiences, let him go through them with you and see if your total healing comes or not.
Understand that it’s a process, the healing might not come in a day, take your time and open yourself to positivity… When the challenges days come, take them on but do not give up on yourself. We all think we have reached out limits but we can do more if we out or heart to it.
I pray that may you find peace, healing and happiness in this journey.
Writer: Empress_Writes (Esther Ayoola)