Doubt is a constant feeling in human nature irrespective of age, exposure, culture or religion. At some points in our lives, we are undecided hence on the fence. As common as this feeling may be, it’s a bad one. Doubt makes us stagnant. Worse cases, it takes one back, farther away from success track. It also adversely affect our relationship with people. Doubt has a way of birthing trust issues when relating even with good and responsible people. Due to the magnitude of the effect doubt can cause, it’s always best to fight it as it comes. However, in fighting doubt, one needs to understand where it is originated from, that is the root cause of it. This confusion often comes as a result of quite a lot of things. Factors ranging from short-sightedness, fear of uncertainties, previous knowledge, lack of preparedness e.t.c.
When doubt comes from previous knowledge or experiences, what do you do?
This is more of a mental and personal work than anything else. Past experiences can be such a hard nut to crack but note that cracking it is possible. What you do is “let go”. When you are faced with doubt due to your past life, you need to let the past go and never to return. Come to the understanding that a fresh and better start is possible. You can not continue to get it wrong because you got it wrong at a point. Believe the belief that “change is constant and transformation can be worked on”.
When your doubt erupts from short-sightedness, what to do?
Doubt may not always come from bad experiences. It could also erupt from your inability to see wide and clear. That is to say, you lack even a glimpse of what the future holds. When this happens, what you should do is to research. Make adequate findings over your intentions, weigh your options and clarify your questions. This way, you will discover to what option do you owe your loyalty. You will know if there is a possibility of anything working out or not. It’s funny to discover that sometimes we’re unnecessarily doubtful about things we lack knowledge of. Findings will always shed light, and some level of doubt will fade off when brought to light.
When your doubt comes from people’s voices, this is what you should do.
In our present day, people tend to always withdraw from doing things that do not get the majorities validation. Now this may be an indicator of a general moral standard but it maybe unhealthy for your progress. Fighting this sort of doubt is simple. All you need to do is avoid comparison, keep your plans between yourself and your close circle.
Avoid advice from people who don’t know the full story; they will always judge base on the little they know. And that may ignite doubt within your heart.
These amongst others are the doubt originators and ways to fight them. But on a general note, below are the general “weapons” to fight doubts as it comes.
Stop making excuses: when you’re faced with doubt, search for reasons not excuses. The difference is rationality and reality. Excuses are just things we say to support our laziness and unwillingness to do a thing while reasons are factors that stop us from making a decision.
Hold your values in high esteem: when doubt knocks, you don’t need to underrate your worth or values. Doubts should make you value your value not the other way round.
Pause and declare: this would have come first but like the Yoruba people normally say, “the best is reserved for the last”. Keep this in your right hand; when doubt comes. The first thing to do is to pause and declare your sanity. Say to yourself, you have the liberty to think rationally and you will. This is simple but it works like magic. Ensure you and apply this mentality and feel free to share your discoveries.
Writer: Faith Kehinde