“Haba! You are thirty-five and you are not married, let alone having suitors.”
“See your friend Felix, he is building the second house and you are still managing in a one-room apartment.”
“Let me tell you the truth, if by December this year, you are still trying to get a job, I will gladly dump you for better people who are asking my hand in marriage, my papa don talk say you are never-do-well for your terrible life.”
“Why are you happy? A boy of nineteen just graduated in Law from LASU, you are 25 and still struggling with WASSCE, you are useless and you do not have a mind to think.”
“See o, if you like do not return the money you borrowed, I will be the first person to knock on your door in two days’ time.”
“Lizzy, you have not met your target for this month, you are 63% behind your colleagues, with the way you are going, you might consider getting another job.”
Everybody goes through pressure from all angles, be it in studies, relationship, career, and ministry, name it. Most pressures we go through take a toll on us because they often come from our loved ones, who in a bid to show they really care, mount pressures.
Many people have ruined their chances to impatience and the same people who seem to care initially now plays the blame game. Others are living in regret for giving in to pressures.
NOW, HOW DO YOU RESPOND TO PRESSURES?
• Listen to opinions. Some wisdom may be gathered from the opinions of your friend, colleagues and family but sieve their opinions; also do not talk too much in responding to pressures, you may misunderstand their opinion; this can help you give attention to areas you have been neglecting prior.
• Get a life. Serve God, help the needy, invest in your talents and gifting, cut some slacks on your daily routine, rest and dance to good music, go for excursions, love and spend time with your family, stop worrying about what you do not have.
• Build emotional stamina. Just like that, build it. Take classes or read on emotional therapy and intelligence, rather than be a cry-cry baby at every event of pressure.
• Take steps of determination. Be determined and focused to start something meaningful in life: serving God in a unit in Church, business, further studies, financial empowerment.
• Choose your friends wisely. Do not choose friends who will run down your ideas, or who will add insult to injuries; get friends who will invest in your being, see better and encourage, who will pressure you to get the goal without losing your self-esteem or pride in the process.
• Establish boundaries. Not everybody should know what is going on in your life. You do not owe everyone an explanation, so save those explanations to yourself. Also, do not give room to be at the mercy of others, it can be frustrating.
• Talk it out. Be accountable to someone who cares genuinely: your parents, friend(s), mentor, pastor. These people can surely guide, help and provide strength and stamina for the days of pressure.
Practically engage the above and see your life shimmer and strong. I awesomely believe you have had this article worthwhile reading and learning.
Kindly apply them to your life and give us feedback via comments and sharing. I am obliged to you!
Writer: Boluwatife Olugbemiga.