James was a chain smoker. He had formed the habit at an early stage in his life, if he didn’t smoke in a day, he would feel restless and irritated, oftentimes he would snap at people for one reason or the other. His friends have tried to help him break the habit, he had even booked appointments himself with therapists and counselors but none helped him.
Most times, he would become serious for a few weeks and then relapse when a situation arose or he felt there was not really any change. James’ bad habit started to endanger his life, his few sticks a day became few sticks per hour, he could no longer go for a long time without it, his first problem started with prolonged cough. Few trips to the hospital and the test results revealed that his lungs were damaged, he would need surgery and daily treatment. He must also give up smoking if he didn’t want to die. Inside the doctor’s office, James realized that he had to break his habit after all, but with a heavy price.
Like James, quite a number of people are battling with one bad habit or the other, they’ve worked on breaking them but it seemed impossible, some are not even willing to try. There are good habits and there are bad ones each of them has their consequences either positive or negative. Most of these habits are very hard to break.
A lot of people get frustrated at a point because they have tried everything they can but nothing is helping, others are not so bothered. In the end, if these bad habits are not dealt with, it won’t really matter if you have tried before or not, the consequences would be faced. Some of these habits could also be life-endangering if they are not taken care of early enough like James’ case.
The reason why most people have failed in breaking habits is because they have either given up early enough or they have not used a method that would work for them. Human beings are different from each other, just as we have people with a different build, different body systems, and different blood groups, so do we have people with different personalities. Therefore, what worked for your neighbor might not work for you.
The question still remains, how do you break a habit?
The first thing you need to do is to be determined. When it comes to growth, personal development, or breaking a habit, you have to be intentional about it. The truth is that people’s words would motivate you to take the step but what keeps you going is the determination to see it through to the end. Until you see the big reason why you need to break that habit, you may never be determined enough to do it.
The second thing you need to do is to figure out a routine that would work for you. Remember that you are quite different from the next person so their methods might not really work for you. What you need to do is to create a method or routine that you would follow daily. One important thing to note is that at this point you do not need to rush yourself. The little day to day practices would go a long way.
The third thing is to be consistent. When trying to break a habit, consistency is key. Breaking habits is not something you do when you feel up to it or you have the time. It has to become as important as the business meetings you have scheduled to close a deal. The routine has to be continued daily and repeated over and over again until the habit is totally broken. If there is no consistency it would be very difficult to break those habits.
Often times people tend to be hard on themselves because they can’t seem to easily break habits. It could be easier for some than the others but it is important to sit back and enjoy the small victories that come with each day. The fact that the routine has been followed each day is enough victory. Changes may not be visible immediately, you may not even notice but if you look closely, you would realize that each day is a closer step towards your goal.
Writer: (Empress_Writes) Esther Ayoola.