Victim or Victor or in another way a captive or a captor are regular words we hear when listening to reports of military warfare or fights.
The world based on the laws of nature is generally divided into two groups. These groups have different names in different contexts. However, within the context of our discourse, we would be using Victor and Victim.
The terms are two different things that connote being a success or a failure. We could also say a victim is a slave, while a victor is the master.
Undoubtedly, the master, victor or captor decides what to do with the slave. The slave on the other hand is helpless and has no other responsibility but to obey and submit to the dictates of his master or captor.
A Victor or in more simpler terms a winner a conqueror, is someone who has worked diligently to achieve a cause a goal or an objective using different strategies or means.
They believe in themselves, their abilities and they do not allow themselves to be deterred by challenges. Conversely, the challenges spur them go take giant steps towards achieving their goals.
In addition, they take responsibility for their actions and are quick to make adjustments. Most importantly they know the importance of time and don’t waste it under any circumstance.
However, to be a victim is to be a prisoner of the past, to refuse to move forward and to continue to live in obscurity and operate in the realm of mediocrity.
People in this category are afraid of stepping out of their comfort zones, they are afraid of launching out, they are comfortable with their present state forgetting that there is more.
Furthermore, the calibre of people in the victim category are poor. Poor not as in the case of been poverty stricken, but “passing over opportunities repeatedly”.
You regularly hear them say:
“I have failed several times, I don’t think I can succeed this time around”. In essence, they have conceded defeat and are entangled by the experiences they had in the past.
You may be wondering why is it that an individual or a group is called a victor while another is a victim. Is nature unjust? Absolutely no.
There is no clear-cut rule or law that says a person or an individual is a victor or a victim. Being a victor or a victim is hence a personal decision which everyone makes at one point in time or the other.
There are different people who have made their way to being a victor. You want to be one of them?
Of course you can be enlisted in the number by doing the following:
1. Having a working goal and working towards achieving it,
2. Stepping out of your comfort zone,
3. Conquering the obstacle of fear,
4. Networking and meeting people of like minds,
5. Cutting of friends, distractions that are detrimental to achieving success,
6. Refraining from needless worries and anxiety,
7. Motivating yourself towards been an achiever,
8. Breaking free from all forms of addictions
9. Letting go of the past and focusing on the future and most importantly,
10. Praying Regularly
Dear friend, it is the beginning of the second half of the year and the commencement of a new month.
What is your resolution? Is it a decision to be a victim or a victor?
As for me I refuse to be taken and captured by my past. I am moving forward. I am a victor. What about you?
Writer: Momoh, Emmanuel Omeiza