A couple of days back, I was alone with my phone and was going through some really important stuff on the internet. I was really into the topic I was reading and occasionally I laughed out loud, showing to my homies at home how really exciting the piece was. Suddenly, there was an ad pop up; y’all know how several ads come up your phones and you at times ignore, trying to fulfil what you intended doing. The usual me would ignore and keep reading, but this time the graphics from the ads was really mindblowing. The artwork was so fascinating that I clicked on the respond button, forgetting I was up to something initially.
This was becoming more interesting. The first ad made room for more ads and soon I had opened about 10 different sites searching for what isn’t lost. What just happened? I lost track of what really mattered for a temporary offer. Wow! I forgot I was meant to meet a target and verify some documents within a given time frame. An hour is gone, with nothing to show forth, except for a few jottings. The thought of not achieving what I wanted to haunt me so much. I didn’t meet up with the day’s expectation because I just wasted my time. Yes, I just wasted my precious time.
Let’s bring this home guy, have you ever mapped out a plan you intend achieving at a given time, maybe at your place of work, school or even your personal target? You are like; “Hey! this is what we’re gon’ do today. First, we do a little home cleaning, laundry, trash some old accessories and go to the mall. Then, we have to fix this and that and present my pitch at work the next day”. How does it look like? You just made a promise. Oh, you think that’s not? Well, I’m telling you it is a promise you just made to yourself.
Now, on your way to the laundry, you meet an old friend and next, you two spend hours talking and bringing back memories, forgetting you have some assignment left at home. I’m not saying formal or informal salutations ain’t good. It is, but be mindful of time. Time waits for no one, remember.
Don’t lose focus. When you know what to do, do it that moment. Don’t interrupt your schedules with irrelevances. The worse thing you can do to hurt yourself is not achieving what you wanted to. For those who do the new year resolution, y’all will understand this better. How do you feel when you find yourself doing what you promised to stop doing, or when you couldn’t meet up as planned at the close of the year? While some are embittered, others see it as pure humane act. “I’m only human”, they say; but in their heart, they feel so miserable and blame themselves for not being man enough to face their fears.
All these summed up is nothing but called a decision. It’s your choice. The decision you make is your own personal determination that; “come what may, I will do this. I just must finish this within this time frame”. But along the way, something came up and you spend the whole day mourning your lost possession. Yes, cause seconds lost can never be regained. Your distractions and indecision have caused you a fortune.
Most times, we are our own problems, not your frustrated boss, not the old woman you say exist in your village, not even whoever you chose to lay the blames on. The problem is you, yes you reading this article. You don’t know what you want, and even when you finally find something or someone that interests you, you lose focus when it doesn’t look like what you thought it was at first sight. Well, you’ve also forgotten that what you now feel would be best for you could mar you too.
Aside from the fact that “not all that glitters is gold”, some so-called golds ain’t even pure gold. They look like it, but they are not it. Side attractions become a distraction that could lead you to your destruction. When you are so carried away and you can’t even differentiate what’s important from the less important, that’s a distraction and if care’s not taken, it will eat deep into your existing layout, and before you know it, you are off track.
The point is, your scale of preference should so much matter to you. You should gird your loins jealousy and meet your supposed target. Set aside irrelevances and avoid whatever looks like a barrier. Funny enough mine was an “ordinary” ad, yours might be a relationship, whether toxic or lively, another might be a lifestyle; you lose sight of your plans when you’re around friends. Do we call that peer pressure yeah?
Let me make this clear all of the above are good things, I mean relationship and friends. Yeah, they are very beautiful, but once they start to shift your focus and you start losing sight of what was before they came into the picture, do away with it. They should be able to compliment your efforts than watering down your sleepless night.
Don’t be so dumb; know what you’re doing and give it all it takes. When I say “all”, I mean every single energy, every dime. You’re investing, and sooner or later, you’d be paid be back in manifolds.
Think on these things.
Writer: Anase Momoh