Ok! You have a friend now! Friendship is a beautiful phenomenon. It is love expressed without thinking or worrying about what so and so will say or do in response to a kind gesture or if the other friend will condemn ones ideas and all that.
Friendship is the peak of love. In marriage if your partner is not your friend, you are in for a frustrated knot and a serf-master relationship. If your boss at work is it not a friend, you cannot develop professionally and deploy skills at maximum. If your neighbours are not friends, you are liable to become a victim of burglary.
What Philosophers Say about Friendship
William Arthur Ward posits that:
A true friend knows your weakness, but shows you strength; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but frees your spirit; recognises your disabilities but emphasises your possibilities.
Martin Luther King (Jr.) opines:
Love is the only force capable of transforming and enemy onto a friend.
To this I concur and add that the best way to express love is not the undue emotional attachment with same and opposite gender friends neither in the loose expression of feeling that are flattery; it is in the friendship that is sincere in all doings and un-doings.
Plato’s opinion strikes hard as I pen this:
No one is a friend to is friend who does not love in return” and that is true because friendship is a two-way, I friend you, you friend me.
Let’s Check Some Ingredients That Garnish Friendship
I postulate three ingredients which emanate from our nature and nurture:
Virtue, Value and Valour
Virtue is an attribute of the person that lustres in relationships with others. Oxford Dictionary of English states that it is the “Behaviour or attributes that show high moral standard…good quality or habit.” The virtues of patience, appreciation, attention, availability, understanding and defence of what you possess are essential.
Value is esteem and worth placed on an object or person or event. Aristotle expressed that “a friend is a second self” and Jesus says: “Love your neighbour as yourself” (Matthew 22:39). Value the rough stones you have, you never can tell if it is a rough diamond you are holding.
Valour is strength in adversity. Remember Jonathan’s attitude when David was in one trouble or another with Saul? Jonathan gave him his robe, tunic, sword, bow and belt to fight war at any given time (1 Samuel 18:4). That’s valour. Jonathan even secured David’s life from being killed my Saul, that loyalty to friendship in the face of adversity, that’s valour.
Take a Leaf From…
He divulged the Father’s “secrets” to his disciples so they can live and be like Him. You and I also a beneficiary of this, if not how would we live a Christian life that pleases God if not that Jesus told us how to live in the Kingdom way?
His company of friends were godly and passionate about the Israel nation and religion such that they made a decision not to be defiled and they stood out (Daniel 1:8, 18-20). What decisions are you influenced to make in your company of fiends?
Paul appreciated his co-workers and friends in Faith as he was gradually winding up his ministry (Romans 16).
Jonathan was not a betrayal despite some justifiable reasons made available to him. Remember he was heir apparent to the throne!
If these things are considered and put in place, you will have good reasons to invest in friendship and love again. I awesomely believe you have had this article worthwhile reading and learning about forgiveness and healing a hurt. Kindly apply them to your life and give us a feedback via comments and sharing. I am obliged to you!
Writer: Boluwatife Olugbemiga