Ayo is tired of lagging behind, her friends were doing generously, some of them even have people they are mentoring. It wasn’t long before she started drifting from them, she would make up excuses not to go out with them, she just couldn’t sit with them without getting envious. Over time, she started blaming herself and her poor environment for her predicament, hence, she gradually became a bitter person.
It is very easy to fall into Ayo’s category when life happens to us, all we think about is how to get out of the situations holding us down. A lot of people deal with challenges, situations, and failures in different ways but most people choose to blame themselves, blame others, blame their parents, or even society, most of these people end up becoming bitter.
People like to play the blame game. They try to find something to put the blame on including themselves. One scary thing about apportioning blame is that it doesn’t make you feel better, you feel worse than when you started and at the end become even more negative about a lot of things.
The other part of this is the “taking responsibility” part. Fewer people decide to take responsibility. Unlike the blame game, taking responsibility is not an easy feat. To take responsibility is to decide to be committed to making your life better, worthy and valuable than ever. To take responsibility means days of challenges, learning, unlearning and relearning a lot of things, it means leaving your comfort zone and exploring uncharted territory.
When a man decides to become responsible, it has little to do with going out to get a job, then providing for the family. It has more to do with getting intentional about gaining a healthier mindset, having the right knowledge, putting them to good use and making a difference in society.
Ayo remained bitter until she met Peter. Peter was a successful young man who had refined himself. He helped her to understand what she was doing wrong and how the bitterness and negativity in her life were contributing to her failures. He helped her to charter a course for herself and even though it took time, she could see a better version of who she was.
Taking responsibility starts with:
1. Becoming confident in yourself.
2. Letting go of bitterness and envy.
3. Maintaining positive thoughts and mindset in the midst of challenges.
4. Stop trying to please others.
In life’s journey, there will be discouragements from people, friends, family and even society, there will be challenges that make you want to run back into your comfort zone, the thing is, you have to decide if you are going to back down or keep going, it is up to you to run back into hiding because in the end, making decisions is still a part of taking responsibility.
Writer: Empress_Writes (Esther Ayoola)