Source: Momoh, Emmanuel Omeiza
“When Life Throws Pebbles On Your Path, Pick It Up And Use It To Build A Mansion”
Life seemed to be very cruel for Charles as he encountered frustrations right from childhood. For over six years, he had been struggling to pass his Senior School Certificate Examination (SSCE). Passing this exam was one of the gateways to gaining admission into the university of his choice.
The more attempts he made, the more frustrations and failures he encountered. This made him to be referred to as a failure by both his friends and parents. After ten years of writing a different series of exams, he eventually made headway and was granted admission to one of the nation’s prestigious university to study medicine.
Like it was in Charles case, life many times could be frustrating. Many people in their journey to success encounter different frustrating and bitter events which might warrant giving up. This could be at work, in the school, in their career, in their marriage etc. Some people because they lack grit, resilience, patience, endurance and perseverance eventually take their own life. They erroneously believe life isn’t fair to them, life isn’t made for them; thus, forgetting that everyone has his or her own share of what is called circumstances and challenges (Frustrations).
Now, Let me ask you a question? Who in this life hasn’t encountered frustrations? I guess your answer absolutely is “NO ONE!”.
Frustration does happen to everyone. It can conceive emotions like fear, worry, anger, or anxiety. In some other times, it can be as though nothing is in control and waters are gradually gathering under one’s feet making the pathways slippery to tread.
I have recently come to understand that the quintessential factor that separates and distinguishes the successful from the unsuccessful is the ability to handle the frustrating experiences they encounter in life. Unsuccessful people are quick to succumb to defeat and failure. Successful people, on the other hand, struggle and strive to find their way through. In the end, they are able to gain new skills, knowledge and most importantly experience.
Sadly, some people have conditioned their minds into believing that once they begin to experience a certain challenge or frustration in either their job, their career, their business, etc, it automatically translates to the fact that the job, business and career isn’t meant for them. Hence, nature hasn’t designed their route through that means.
How then do we overcome this monster known as Frustration or probably you are thinking it is insurmountable? Certainly “NO”. Frustration as a phenomenon is surmountable by following the steps outlined below:
1. Condition your mind to be at rest: This can prove somewhat difficult, but trust me it works fine. A mind under tension, like a troubled water cannot and will not be able to overcome frustration.
2. Understand what caused the frustration: This has to do with evaluating the whole situation. Frustration can be caused both by oneself and others. Reading in between the lines speeds up the process of recovery.
3. Speak Up: I have particularly found this point to be true in several instances. However, the person to be spoken to must be trusted and should be able to give directions and guidance.
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4. Make A decision and act on it: This decision could include not ruminating over the experience etc. As much as making the decision is good, it is also important to stay committed to the decision and act on it.
Frustrations are hitherto unavoidable experiences in life. Managing the feelings and emotions associated with it can someone be a complex issue but it does pay a rich dividend in the end.