Source: Momoh Emmanuel
The world is filled with a lot of people with different tastes, attitudes, personality and characters. As a result of this, we interact and associate ourselves with different groups of people at different times. Most times, because of the high expectations and hopes we have placed in people, we find out that we are most times disappointed. These disappointments could cause a variety of problems ranging from paranoid, physical exchange of words and intense conflicts.
In addition, since nature has conditioned our bodies and psyche to be imperfect, we tend to make mistakes which makes us come short of the goals or plans we have for ourselves. Consequently, we often times find it difficult to let go of some of these offences. This most times robs us of our inner joy and peace. Instead of focusing on the lessons to be learnt, we are bitter and continue to wish it never happened. This makes us carry unreasonable guilt for donkey years. The whole situation is then likened to someone who is watching a particular film several times and is expecting a different ending.
Several circumstances and situations are beyond our control and the earlier we learn to let go, the better for us. If we continue clinging on to the past, then we become haunted by it. This ultimately affects our focus. The story then turns around like someone who desires the clothes he used while he was much younger apparently forgetting that they are past, useless and irrelevant and that there are better garments to be worn as he or she grows older.
It is best to close the book, forgetting the past and understanding that one is on a mission to find love, beauty and passion in and around you. Knowing these keeps on the right track and sharpens our focus.
Let me end this piece by telling a short story. A man had a friend who he trusted so much that he became his confidante. They were so fond of each other that they both found it difficult to live a day without speaking to each other. Due to their manner of behaviour, many people thought they were brothers from the same mother. Now for the purpose of clarity, let us name the parties Ray and Ralph. Both men were seasoned engineers.
It got to a time they had some minor disagreements and because they were unable to resolve it quickly, it escalated into a conflict. The mutual relationship suddenly turned sour. Ralph was willing to resolve it and nip it in the bud. Ray on the other hand, had egotistic tendencies and felt it was over between both of them.
As nature would have it, Ralph got an offer at a company who was ready to pay him for his wealth of experience and skills. However, the company needed two people for the job. Since they were unable to find, Ralph was paid double for the duties he performed. Ralph felt it was an opportunity to mend the bridge with Ray.
They both agreed to a date and ironed out issues between themselves. Ralph as promised told Ray of the opportunity at the place he worked. Without much ado, Ray took up the challenge, applied and was given an offer too.
I hope you understand the point I am driving at and also the moral of the above story.
Now my challenge is this: Would you still cling to the past or rather let go of it and focus on the future? You have the choice to make