Source: Empress_writes (Esther Ayoola)
I loved my parents dearly, they were my world and anything they said was what I did. I had no reason to doubt their love for me either. They had my best interest at heart. We started having problems after my secondary school exams. They wanted me to be a lawyer but I wanted to be a writer. It started as a little case we kept sweeping under the rug until the moment I was supposed to fill my jamb form. I had never seen my dad so angry, he kept telling me his decisions were final and I had no right to question his authority.
My mother was torn between us at first, eventually, she supported my father. She would give me reasons why I should study law. I took after my father, I could be adamant and refuse to change my views over a particular situation. Ultimately, I refused to cave in too. It wasn’t long before our relationship deteriorated. I loved my parents but I wouldn’t allow them to choose for me. At the end of the day, it all boiled down to my choice. To stick to my choice and lose my relationship with my parents or to give in to their choice and once again become the model child.
Most times we find ourselves in situations that seems like we do not have a choice. We try so hard to find ourselves within these circumstances but it can be so hard. Life is all about choices, it is a necessity to make one.
The line that differentiates between good and evil is the choice not to act on them. -Unknown
God has given us the liberty to make our choices. We take responsibility for the choices we make. Some of us have taken good decisions and wrong decisions. We have gone for options that have made or marred us in the long run. At the end of the day, it is all about what we have chosen.
A lot of questions have been raised on what is a good choice and what is a bad one. Most of the choices we make depend on the time we make them. Some also depend on the reason why we made them. There are also choices we make because of motives or mindsets. In the end, we all have a reason for the choices we have made, those we are making and those we will make.
I chose to follow my passion to study creative writing. My father cut me off and made sure my mother would never contact me. There were days I felt like going back home to beg my parents for forgiveness but I held back. Today, I still do not regret the choice I made. I am sure I will not regret it tomorrow. It is important to make decisions that we will never have to regret no matter how much it hurts. There are times we have to let someone go, stop doing a particular thing or stop talking to a particular person. There are moments when we want to run back to our comfort zone because we are familiar with that place, there are also times we will question or choices. The reasons why we made them in the first place should keep us going.
There are also moments we’ve made bad choices and we live in the guilt till now. Yes, there are times we feel like turning back the hand of time to change those choices and make better ones. But the thing is the deed has been done. It is a choice to either wallow in guilt or stand up and make the future better than the past.
One thing is certain, all we do as humans is a choice. It is important that we pick an option that no matter how hard or tough it is, we will never regret it. Our choices are as important as the air we breathe.