Source: Empress_writes (Esther Ayoola)
“Death and Life are in the power of the tongue, those who live it will eat its fruit.” I am sure quite a number of people have read or heard this before. For every word we speak, we reap the consequences. Now, the important thing is if these consequences will be negative or positive. Before more emphasis is made on that, let’s understand what exactly words are.
Words are every letter, phrase, sentence that we say every single day. They could be good, bad, positive, negative, insults or compliments. It is also important to know that words could be “thought of” just like when they are spoken. This means that we can speak with our minds. Words are life, words are spirit. Words could even be swords. It is essential that we think before we speak. Once they are spoken, they might never be reversed.
What exactly makes words important? The manner of confessing them, the timing, the message intended to be passed or the words itself? All of these things make words important. Words go with gestures, words pass a message (it may be good or bad). Let’s take a look at the message which brings us back to positivity or negativity.
Growing up, my father had always emphasized the power of words. He made sure that we learned not to insult people especially elders since they could lay a curse on you. Unconsciously, my siblings and I learned how to relate with people. We made sure we considered people’s feelings in the statements we intended to pass across so that we would not hurt them.
One thing that it taught me is the art of speaking. Every time I spoke a “bad word” I felt bad. Quite a number of people do not know how to pass messages across to people. They say words carelessly without minding the impacts on the receiver. A lot of people have problems with themselves because of the words that they have heard over and over again. Imagine someone who had been told numerous times that she is stupid. Don’t be surprised the person may actually turn out stupid. Others also use words to hurt people when they are angry so that the other party will feel hurt too. Some people have also hurt others while trying to be “blunt“. Unknowingly, they add fuel to the fire.
We need to understand that these examples show negativity. None of them attempts to soothe, heal, correct or even help. In the end, the situation may get worse. Negativity in words does not have to be insults or curses. They could be the message that is passed and these words end up having negative effects. There is a need to be cautious of the words we use. A lady once told me about how her dad encourages her, he believed so much in her that he saw bigger than what she does. The end result is her self-esteem was boosted. When you are surrounded by positive words, advice, corrections, you tend to grow. Positive words refresh the spirit.
You don’t have to wait for people to speak positively to you. You can start yourself. Have confessions you say to yourself every single day. The more you say them, the more you believe in them. Surround yourself with so much positivity and refrain from using negative words either on yourself or others.
I would like to emphasize our thoughts. The scripture says “as a man thinketh in his heart so he is.” What you perceive of yourself and others matters. If you think you can’t do it, you are too small, then you will never be able to do it. If you think you can subdue mountains and overcome the world, with the right work, time and strategy you will.
Your mind cannot be negative and your mouth positive. Who you are in your mind always reflects. Sometimes it is hard to be positive especially if the situation has not been easy. Keep being positive it will pay off. The words we speak to ourselves, to people, to challenges are important. In the end, you reap the benefits.