…he managed to stay serious in school but his addiction grew stronger as he developed physically. They didn’t know how serious it was until he raped his cousin. “What a shame you are” his mother kept sounding in his ear, his Uncles and Aunties were not exempted, everyone had one or two things to tell. All these reasons and many more made him move out of the house to maintain sanity. To cut the long story short, he opened up to a friend of his who introduced him to a therapist and after three years of regular sessions, he dropped the habit.
What got my attention was this statement of his: I knew what I was doing was bad, I was aware I had to change but those around me did not help matters. Nobody cared to ask what went wrong. Since I was already used to their disapproval and conclusions, I grew tougher. I earned love outside and I saw reasons to change. I must admit, in most cases, those we expect to help us in time of distress tend to add to our crises, I was there and I know why I said this. I left the house when I started feeling suicidal. I spoke with a reliable friend of mine and he helped me.
I think we should stop here. Back to the question! What next? How do you become a better you? How do you face the world? You have recognized you have a problem, that your addictive behaviour is affecting other parts of your life and you want to know how to quit an addiction. The chances are that you did not expect to become addicted when you started. You may have thought you were just having fun and could quit at any time. Many people who develop addictions are surprised at how difficult they find their first attempt at quitting and end up wondering, why can’t I quit? There are many factors, physical, mental and emotional that make quitting difficult. This is why so many people find treatment to guide them through the complex process of quitting although many people are successful quitting on their own.
The steps to take to overcome addictions are:
• Write down reasons why you became addicted in the first instance.
• Think about how your addiction has affected your life negatively.
• Ponder on how your addiction has affected your relationship with other people.
• Make a list of possible changes you want to occur in your life.
• Write down your reasons for wanting to quit.
• Forget about what people will perceive of you when you eventually change.
• Feel proud of yourself for making the decision to revamp.
• Remember it’s a procedure and you can’t push it. You might fall. Get up, dust yourself and try again.
• Talk to someone you trust and can rely on to assist you all the way.
• This might seem absurd but it works. Reward yourself at every stage of your achievement (it’s just a way of encouraging yourself to do more).
Above all, you must remember that all these cannot be achieved if God doesn’t authorize. So, believe and rely solely on Him to take you through the process of becoming a better you.
How’s it gonna be? Will you change or will you remain a weakling?