Nigeria & Connection
You need connection to succeed in Nigeria she screamed and I thought to myself “that was said out of frustration”. Ever heard of the Nigerian Syndrome? Truth be told, if you do not do away with such mentality, you’d be stuck in one position. A few minutes later, I approached the young lady and asked the simple question “what happened?” Oh, you must have seen her face, she looked angry and disappointed at the same time. I perceived what was going on and I said only people with the “mediocre mindset” make such statements. Instantly, she looked at me and gave the “are you OK?” look (LOL). I understood what that look meant and I am sure she wondered whether I had ever been in her shoes. Without hesitation, I narrated my experience, well, she went home relieved.
I understand that a large number of us have this mentality, it could be due to how we were brought up or based on our personal experiences. What we all fail to understand is: whatever we conceive in our hearts always has a way of rubbing off on our actions. If you think you can’t succeed without getting to know influential people, you are on a long thing. Some time ago, I needed a particular approval for something important. I was so sure it was not an issue because I knew a top official who worked in the said organization. I placed a call and I was assured it would be sorted out in no time, after several calls, nothing was done. As a matter of fact, subsequent calls were ignored.
Eventually, I visited the place myself, followed the necessary protocols and in two days, I got my approval. Now, the mistake we make is we always think these people we look up to don’t have other things to do. We sit at home and expect that they will perform their magic. Sometimes, all you need to do is purpose in your heart, motivate yourself, push and follow the necessary steps.
I know someone is thinking to him/herself: “what is she saying?“. Check this out: You are still in school and you follow the crowd to say: you can’t get a job without connection. You graduate with that mentality and after two to three attempts, you throw in the towel. You impact the same ideology into your younger sibling in school and he/she leaves school with the same perception. The same thing occurs and you begin to blame people. Do you know people get jobs on a daily basis? You are so carried away with hitting the big target when the small ones are a stepping stone for you. For how long do you want to ruin your life?
Of a truth, you need to stand on the shoulder of giants but there are better ways to do so. I have come to realize that most times these influential people want you to make a move. Identify a gap, look for ways to bridge them and see whether they won’t give you a raise. Your mindset matters in everything you do. How do you succeed when you have already defeated yourself? Stop attaching your success to people. You will only succeed if you are determined to succeed.
Don’t get me wrong! This article aims at getting the Nigerian Syndrome off your mind. Persistence is key! Irrespective of your environment, you must thrive. Check around you and explore the opportunities therein, impact your world and be remembered for something good. Connection or no connection, you will succeed!