I was privileged to attend a class sometime last week and our discussions were centered around discrimination. In the process of getting acquainted with various types of discrimination, this topic struck my mind. I asked the question and we all deliberated on it. Well, I have decided to bring it down here for further enlightenment as it is a crucial issue.
A proper definition of the word discrimination will help us have a clearer view of what the topic is all about. Discrimination is the act of making a distinction between one thing or the other. It can also be said to be an unequal or unfair treatment of a person based on some characteristics. There are several types but I will mention three. They include Racial, Ethnic, Gender, etc. For the purpose of this article which is based on gender, I would like to define gender discrimination in my own words. Gender discrimination is a direct or indirect act of treating one sex more favorably at the expense of the other. Kindly note that I am advocating for the “boy child“.
Now, someone will say to him/herself, why did she pick the boys? Do not stress! I would explain myself. It is something we all know and deny. Guess what? We are not helping ourselves. In this society of ours, we can deduce that the girls are given more attention than the boys. I remember back then in school, so many NGO representatives would come to sensitize us on various issues prevailing in the society and everything had to do with girls. From sex education to hygiene and so on and you find out that only girls were asked to move to the school hall. The worst part of it is even in churches today no one teaches the men to be good husbands. I mean, how do you expect them to be of good behavior when they were not trained from the onset?
We all know that the girl child is delicate and the boys, on the other hand, are wired differently (resilient and tough). Do we have to leave them to find out things on their own? Is it part of the training process on how to be tough and independent? Is it a taboo to teach boys? Check this out! From childhood, a girl is taught how to protect herself from hooligans (bad boys), forgetting that the society is made up of both sexes. She becomes an adult and is left to deal with the outcome of our failure to train the boys. At the end of the day, she is left at the mercy of the so-called hooligans. This is another one, If boys were trained on how to treat ladies, I believe the incidence of rape and other misbehaviors will be reduced.
Boys deserve to be trained too. For parents who have both sexes, teach your boys as much as you teach your girls. If the society has failed to recognize this fact, it is your duty to correct it. A child’s first school is the home. Fathers, be good examples to your sons. I believe kids learn a lot from their parents. For NGOs, government agencies, churches, schools and other bodies, let us make it a point of duty to bring up our boys to make them individuals with high moral standards.
Here is a question for us all. What happens to the boys facing the consequences of not being given attention?