You deserve a good life!
Why misplaced? While surfing the web, this quote caught my attention and I felt the need to share it with you all: “The mark of a great man is one who knows when to set aside the important things in order to accomplish the vital ones” (Brandon Sanderson). Take note! Important things and Vital ones.
Back in school, as an Economics student, I was made to understand the difference between wants and needs. Before then, I felt they had the same meaning because literally, both are used the same way. Wants and needs are important but one outweighs the other. Your wants are things that ordinarily would make you have a good life but could still be overlooked. That is, it might not be a necessity at that point in time while your needs are things that without them living a good, sane and proper life becomes difficult and impossible. Just as we are different in status, our wants and needs vary. My wants might be your needs and vice versa. So, do not expect that your life must be a replica of another man’s.
From the little explanation on wants and needs, I believe by now you should know which overshadows the other. Failure to carefully separate your wants from your needs leads to misplaced priorities. Earlier I asked you to take note of two phrases “Important things and Vital ones“. If whatever you are aspiring to get to make your life better is not important, I wonder why you are in pursuit of it in the first place. So, check yourself at this point and highlight those things you go out of your way to get/acquire. If they are not important, you know what to do. The truth of the matter is of all those important things you have listed, some are more vital than the others; those are your needs. Do not get it twisted, I would give you an illustration.
As a young career person, you are about to move to the next level of your career (promotion which comes up only after 4 years) and something is holding you back. You ought to have taken a course that would last 3 months but you could not because of financial constraint. Now, all of a sudden the money shows up and then you remember you promised to get yourself a car. Checking your fat account balance, you feel so reluctant to pay the fees for that course consoling yourself with “ I can’t kill myself, I can remain on this level and write the course some other time“.
Immediately, you transfer the money to a friend’s account who would help you through the process of getting the car and boom! You become a proud car owner and remain on that same spot for the next 4 years. Your colleague, on the other hand, has the same issue as you. This individual has other wants but feels the need to take the 3 months course to attain the next level. He sacrifices the pleasure he would derive from spending the money on other things, pays the fees, gets promoted and receives the bonuses that come with the promotion, an increment and other allowances and within a year gets a car better than yours.
Now, do not get me wrong! Buying a car is a good thing but in that context, which is more vital for the person’s wellbeing? It is unfortunate that some of us do not know how to make short term sacrifices for long term gains. We overdo and stress ourselves so much to get things that would only last for a while forgetting that we owe nobody any explanation for the way we live our lives. So many people act as though they are in competition with other people. They measure their success based on what another person has done and in cases where they do not match up, they do everything possible to make sure they top the chart.
Look, you only see the clothes displayed in the showroom. No one knows what the fabric went through before it became as beautiful as you think it is. Sometimes we feel the substantial men and women we have now never made sacrifices. We tend to emulate their spending pattern forgetting that we still have a lot to do on ourselves. If you are the type that is easily carried away by frivolous things, be careful so you do not consume all you need for your future to be bright now.
I cannot stop making reference to all I learned in school as they have helped me one way or the other. Scale of preference, this could go a long way. It is a list of things you feel you need in their order of importance. When making a list of things you need or even goals, ensure those that top the chart are those that must be attended to urgently.
Your priorities and how you place them determines how your life would turn out to be. Know when to set aside things that can come later for things that must be given urgent attention. When you check some families you would be surprised at how some parents prioritize. Some women find it so easy to spend money on “aso-ebi” leaving their children hungry and unkempt. Felicitating with people is good, who says you cannot attend that party in your own gorgeous outfit? I wonder! In a bid to impress people out there, do not hesitate to perform your duties at home. Your friend sells nice outfits and you would not want her to see you as a pauper. You buy clothes, shoes, wigs and jewelries at the expense of other important things. My dear, it is at your own peril.
Wake up! Stop joking with your life, you do not have to go for everything that comes your way, know your purpose. Make sacrifices that would yield great returns and enjoy the benefits they bring. You should check this out: The real reason why people misplace priorities.
You deserve a good life!