I attended a workshop today and I must say I have a different perspective about preparing for marriage. I would like to share some of the things I learnt.
We put in so much work when it comes to finding the right person but do we really work on becoming the right person? The best time to fix your marriage is before you get into it. Look at it from this perspective! You find the right person and you do not have what it takes to keep him/her. You end up blaming the other party when the fault is actually yours. Discover who you truly are, you can only do this by getting your definition from God.
Acknowledge something good about yourself, try to find out the good things that can come out of you. You see, you are your cheerleader. The moment you start to look down on yourself, depression sets in. No one can break you without your permission so manage your own business before you attend to that of others. You can only be valued after you have positioned yourself in an appropriate manner.
Some environments limits us as individuals, find the right environment for your valuable assets to thrive. Do not be afraid to say goodbye to relationships and habits that limit you. At the end of the day you would find out you did the right thing though difficult initially. Know your strengths and weaknesses (assets and liabilities as I heard today). Your assets are your exceptional potentials while your liabilities are your weaknesses.
At the end of it all, we need God to position us properly as we cannot do all these on our own. He made us and He knows what is best for us. Trying to do things without His approval is very risky. He alone can help polish us and make us attractive in and out. Only then can we be perfect for that special person He has ordained for us.
Get your definition from God! It is better to get it right from the start.